The Neptune Warrior

I was chatting on text today with someone and we were talking about setbacks in life and I said to them, “Sometimes the water is smooth and sometimes the waves are rocking your world. As long as we keep in mind that waves are just water when it stumbles we are going to be ok.”

The conversation was really around relationships. I shared something on the podcast that didn’t make it to the blog and its more about one of the reasons men lead in the statistics of suicide. Its also a primary reason men are checking out and setting their own course.

Personally speaking I grew tired of the BS. I shrunk my circle, I set sprint goals, I moved on.

Here are my notes from the podcast that made its way to a social media posting :

All a man needs is his dog, a solid rig, his dive gear, and a mission. I don’t have time for mediocre relationships, sub par intimacy, garbage food, or indecisiveness. Get on the boat and dive this ocean we call life or stay on the beach.

A big question in social media these day, “where have the good men gone?”

Good men make weak people uncomfortable. We are the protectors on both the dive site and the dating app. We open doors for others. We have our finances in check. We put women and children first so they are out of harms way and we can focus on getting shit done. We offer seats to the elderly on the bus and give up our coat to the woman we protect when she is cold. We have the ability to be dangerous but choose peace instead. We are prepared to meet violence with violence but keep that monster in the box. Nice guys are weak and bad boys are bullies. Never confuse the three.

We have gone where we have purpose. We have gone where there is less BS. We know how to cook, clean, fix our own meals. We pay our bills.

We aren’t pursuing the damsel in distress anymore. We aren’t willing to be a meal ticket. We aren’t looking to carry anyone’s baggage, most of us have done that and been burned.

When someone comes into our lives, we choose to let them in because they make us better men.

We are out here living our best versions of ourselves. Until then, good men are there waiting for someone to match their energy. Anything less is not worth pursuing.

Good men aren’t gone, we are just not into the BS anymore.

The water may create stumbling blocks for us. As long as we keep our near term goals in sight, that next class, next dive trip, next adventure, we are going to be ok.

Create your own wake. Don’t let those who misunderstand you and repel your strength be the wave that takes you out.